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at what age can you work at Tim Hortons in Saskatchewan, Canada?

I live in Regina, Sk and looking for a first job. I’m 15 years old, and two months

Under Saskatchewan’s employment regime the age of 16 was set as the general minimum age of employment. An “absolute” minimum age of 14 has also been established provided those 14 and 15 year old workers fulfil certain requirements. These include: completing a “Young Worker Readiness” Certificate Course (YWRCC) obtaining a Certificate of Completion, providing proof of age, and a written consent from a parent or guardian.

Additional requirements set out that they may not work more than 16 hours during a school week; and work no later than 10:00 p.m. on any day prior to a school day or before school starts on any day. Exemptions include: family business employing only immediate family, the self employed, traditional farming operations, babysitters, and newspaper carriers. If an employer wishes to hire someone under the age of 14 they must request a “special permit” under the Director of Labour Standards. Unlike Quebec, children are expressly prohibited from working on a construction site. Other prohibited work locations are pulp mills, saw mills, wood working establishments, smelters, foundries, refineries or metal processing or fabricating operations among other locations. There are no restrictions on working in the agricultural sector except where the child may be exposed to a chemical or biological substance.

Does these tests results mean anything?

I took depression and anxiety tests, and I got medium on depression, and high on anxiety. I probably got medium on depression because I cut, had thoughts of suicide, ect. And I’ve actually tried it. But I know these aren’t trustworthy but I took many different tests and they all say the same thing, but some ask more in depth depression questions that are true for me, so I get high depression. What should I trust?

You should trust yourself. If you want help with your depression and don’t want to cut or kill yourself. You should trust that.

The tests, clinical depression, clinical anxiety, diagnosis; its all based on opinions and theories. there’s no physical or objective test you can take. So it doesn’t actually mean anything.

Clinical illness is ONE way, not THE way. I would strongly recommend NOT seeing depression and anxiety as illnesses. You should see that as a state of mind, you cutting yourself and thinking about suicide are a result of an escalated and intensified mind.

Believing that’s an illness will intensify that, because in the Ci world, there’s no cure and you have to manage it for life. That’s NOT true. (chemical imbalance is a theory & the claims linking it to be a physical disease hasn’t been proven. The link btw serotonin and depression has actually been disproven) You’re already stuck inside a mental loop, geting your brain stuck like that feels horrifying because you have no idea how to get out of it, CI intensifies that by putting you in an infinite loop for life claiming its physical and you have it for life. The real problem is CI makes people anxious that even when they get over depression it’ll come back. When every depressive "episode" should be viewed separately. And if the person keeps getting depressed over the same stuff it means they never resolved their issue. Clinical illness keeps people from moving on.

Depression or anxiety doesn’t have to be this big complicated thing and a mystery disease. How many times have you gotten stuck in something and gotten yourself out of it? Your brain is stuck and it feels awful but you can get out of it. It if gets stuck again you just have to get it unstuck.

First of all, have a healthy relationship with depression. Understand its natural, we all go through it, we can’t avoid it since its one of those states of mind we experience. So don’t fear it, you can experience it. It serves a purpose of processing complex emotions and big events that just take awhile for us to process it and get over it. And getting over depression is the most profound experience, its cathartic. I wouldn’t have traded my depression for anything because I learned so much. (this is me celebrating depression in a healthy way, unhealthy way to celebrate depression is to sulk in it and fear it.) This is what a healthy relationship with depression is.

Anxiety is part of our brain’s problem solving process. We need it. It addresses the problems. YOU don’ want to live in a reality of anxiety. that’s a parallel universe inside your head of things that may or may not happen.

Living in a constant state of anything is bad. that’s why we get annoyed at people who are only happy because humans need to experience the whole range of saddness, happiness, depression, anxiety, calmness, excitement. It stimulates us, makes us learn and grow. Its called living. But we’re not born to know how to control these things. Controlling our emotions and state of mind is a learning process for life and just because you haven’t mastered the control of one or any of these things isn’t an illness. You just need to gain the tools to do it and some people need guidance. We all do from teacher, parents, babysitter, peers and sometimes professionals.

You just dont want to live in a constant state of mind (any constant state of mind), Its unhealthy to live inside your mind, depression or anxiety can’t become your reality, you can’t let it escalate, intensify or frequent to a high intensity.

Your cutting and suicidal behavior is just the indication that your depression has gotten out of control and consumed you. At least you’re smart enough to know you want help. You don’t need to see a psychiatrist or take drugs if you don’t want to. There’s alternatives and counselors that may be more helpful

You need to understand that the drugs are an unnatural way to change your state of mind you also need to be aware that when you take the drugs you’ll be under the influence even long after you quit. so there are alternatives if you need drugs to change your state of mind because you just can’t control it and need a break from it, (physical activity like exercise isn’t doing it for you) medicinal mj is a safer alternative because its not addicting, you’re not always under the influence, you’ll be more aware of your state of mind because you have to choose to take it and you don’t deal with all the bad side effects and withdrawal ssri’ have to offer.

True therapy is to learn to enjoy the process of change. The cure is to move on and live in the present moment in front of your face.

What is wrong with me what may i have? like as in behavior disorders or something?

I don’t know what’s wrong with me, I’m not crazy i’m not a psycho, I can’t control this I can’t control the way I think I would never do things like this my brain jus thinks it and it happens i have Pseudotumor cerebri which occurs when the pressure inside my skull (intracranial pressure) increases for no obvious reason. Symptoms mimic those of a brain tumor, but no tumor is present. So I constantly feel the pain of an actual real tumor all the time I had this problem my whole life the pain and stuff I turn 21 in march… And am married and i have a 2 year old (3 in April) and I love my life, I have horrible memory I constantly forget things as soon as it happens and have trouble remembering things… I have big issues with trust and jealousy. I dont trust anyone other then super close family with my baby I constantly think my husband will leave or cheat on me but he has never given me a reason to fell that way. I get randomly mad, sad, depressed or whatever at people for no reasons and then just be fine a second later like full blown arguement and then giggleing or cry over small things.. I didn’t cry when my uncle or grandma died but I cry when I see some random kid or peoson die on a fake show or movie… Or when something awsome like someone has a baby happens im comstantly afraid people want to hurt my son or I all the time.. like crazy bugalurs or rapeist or kidnappers and im paranoid of babysitters and daycares cause they might hurt my baby or let a kid hurt him or let him run off down the street…. Any time I am shaving or cuttibg veggies or doing somethihg remotely dangerous I randomly see it cut me or slice me open, not intentionally like I’ll slip up and accidently do it or it will fall out of my hand and hurt me… I also have issues with odd numbers any time i see odd numbers i unknowingly bite my lip or scratch my arm til it bleeds and wont know til i snap out of it or someone tells me or ill pop my finers or uncontrollably shake.. no asshole answers

Intracranial Pressure is serious. It can be the reason why you have these feelings. By your description you have Depression, Anxiety, Schizophrenia,Psychosis and are Bipolar. You need to be on meds dear. As your Chronic illness is not helping and perhaps causing more of a chemical imbalance. Try to exercise more and eat better for now and do make an appointment.

Your doing the right thing coming out and saying how you feel. Baby Steps!
Info is below if you would like more advice.

Really upset about mother in law smoking around my daughter?

Before my daughter was born we approached the subject about being worried she would smoke in the house when our baby was there. She assured us she never would

My daughter was extremely ill when she was newborn and for several months and was in and out of hospital. At one point she was resuscitated due to severe bronchiolitis

Now whenever she gets sick it goes to her chest and she’s had several bad chest infections.

I’m back in work now and my daughter is 12 months. My husband can work his clients around my shifts mostly but on occasions my daughter goes to my mother in law. There’s been several times I’m sure she’s been smoking but never daughter her

Well today we are all here and I can smell it really really badly. It can only be her

I’m really upset about this and spoken to my husband. He in turn has spoken to his dad but now I’m the one who feels really uncomfortable like I’ve done something wrong

Yes it’s her house and I can’t stop her from smoking but you’d think she would have a bit of respect for her granddaughters health. I’m at the point where I’m just going to take her and leave as its just not fair

I know it’s not really a question but I needed to express how I felt. Anyone else have reoccurring problems with in laws smoking around your baby?

I totally understand. My MIL is also a smoker and although she always smokes outside (even in -40 temps.) when my nephew is there, she smokes inside the rest of the time, leaving that nasty smokey, chemical residue on the floors, walls, and furniture.

I would simply say, when ‘Suzy’ is at your house I’d really appreciate if you only smoked outdoors because of her medical history, it’s especially hard on her to breath.

If she doesn’t comply, look for alternate care, a daycare centre, home daycare, babysitter, neighbour, or a SAHM, who would be willing to swap childcare so she and her hubby can go out some evenings.

If budget prevents you from paying for childcare, the the last option is possible, I’d honestly look at whether or not you really NEED that second income. Or how badly you really care about MIL smoking around your daughter. As the parent you need to make the best decisions for your family, but know that dropping her off someone you are not comfortable with her being doesn’t have to be your only option.

What are some under paid professions?


List of 10 of the most underpaid jobs in the U.S., with salary and wage figures from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics and Salary.com. They are in no particular order, since one could argue any of these is the single-most underpaid:

Restaurant dishwashers ($7.25 an hour): The germs and bacteria these people are exposed to are scary enough to make a cat walk backwards up a wall hissing the whole time. The mountains of garbage they scrap off plates, the grease that permeates pores opened wide by steaming commercial dishwashers and the general thanklessness of the job make it horrible work at twice the pay.

Consumer Loan Collection Agents ($22,826): The financial-services industry enriches a lot of its employees, and then pays these people peanuts to lean on deadbeats. If they’ve got you on the line, don’t blame them for applying some pressure and unload a verbal assault on them. Blame the last zero-percent financing offer you bought hook, line and sinker.

Pest Controller ($24,120): In eradicating vermin from rats to cockroaches, they must crawl into the dark recesses that rodents inhabit, administer all manner of chemical "treatments" and retrieve rotting carcasses on their periodic service calls. We pay them a pittance to make the noises in the wall go away, and rid our kitchens of creepy crawlers we don’t want to admit to hosting.

Slaughterers and Meatpackers ($20,010): Unlike their often well-paid counterparts — unionized supermarket butchers — these heavy lifters of the meat-processing industry are doing the work that we never want to think about as we’re marinating our strip steaks or searing our baby backs on the grill.

Police Officers ($41,950): For all the strain the job puts on their psyches, cops don’t earn nearly enough, never mind that they’re always in harm’s way. We pay them to be society’s voice of authority, and then shy away from them. No man is an island — except for a police officer.

Substance Abuse Counselors ($31,300): This is the real missionary work of the social-service system, trying to rehabilitate lost souls. Many are former abusers who can’t find gainful work from suspicious employers and risk falling backward from being around dopers and drunks. They generally fail to save a population most of us have written off — including relatives and friends we’ve abandoned — but persevere for that one they’ll help recover.

Medical residents ($40,000): — These doctors in training work 60 to 100 hours a week — the equivalent of the dishwasher’s hourly wage. The medical industry skirts overtime laws because the pay is deemed a "stipend." Sure, they move on from four years of residency into six-figure jobs, but if we paid them more at this stage, maybe they wouldn’t feel so entitled and anxious for the hefty income awaiting them.

Funeral Home Attendants ($19,200) and Morgue Attendants ($26,167): They see dead people, in the flesh every day. They check in corpses and comfort grieving relatives in the most depressing work environment short of the front lines of a battlefield. A cancer ward is cheery by comparison.

Emergency Medical Technicians and Paramedics ($25,450): Down the road, their patients will be treated by well-compensated doctors if they survive; it’s these front-line medical experts who greatly enhance survival chances. Look for their pay to increase as overweight Baby Boomers discover their maintenance meds failing them in the damnedest of places.

Preschool Teacher ($21,907): Day-care workers ($19,900) are notoriously underpaid, but the real dishonor is paid to the preschool teachers who lead our three-and four-year-olds in ABCs and 123s in our vast, dual-income absence. Birth to age five are critical years in the development of a child’s personality and intelligence, yet we pay these people little more than we fork out for a babysitter on a Saturday night.

The vast majority of Americans would never consider doing these 10 jobs, either because of the poor pay or what’s involved. Still, in every case, they’re performing an indispensable service, and we all owe them a debt of gratitude for

Any advice on using cloth diapers?

I’m expecting my first baby in June and was wondering how people’s experiences have been with cloth diapers. Is it messy/messier, simple/hard, brands that are good/bad,…anything!
Thanks in advance

My standard cloth diaper answer:

I’ve used both, cloth are better.

Pros:
-Cheaper in the long-run. To have your own stash takes a bit of up-front cash, a couple hundred for a good stash and accessories, but you can trim this down by buying used or in bulk.
Using cloth diapers is not cheaper if you use a diaper service. Diaper services tend to be very expensive and not many cities have them. Buying your own is the best way to use cloth.
-Nice soft fabrics.
-No excess in chemicals.
-Less rashes.
-Less stink. Disposables reek, and the smell lingers. Tossing cloths in a nice lidded can keeps smells in. You’d never know I have diapers in my house.
-Less mess.
-Less leaks. I’ve never had a leak in a cloth diaper.
-Environmentally friendly. Kind of. It depends on local water recycling policies, what sort of detergent you use, what water temperatures you wash in, if you line dry or tumble. So, it could be a really green choice for you, or it could not really matter. Either way, it keeps a couple thousand disposables out of landfills and that counts for something.
-Modern pocket and AIO diapers are grandma/daddy/babysitter friendly. Most day cares won’t refuse to use them. Why would they? They’re the same as a toss away, you just toss it in a bag to send home instead of the trash.
-It’s easier to potty-teach toddlers in cloth diapers. They can feel the wetness on their skin and this makes them uncomfortable, they’ll learn the potty much more willingly and quickly.
-They really are very cute.
-You can get one-size diapers that will fit from newborn to toddlerhood. So, one stash can fit multiple kids and last them the entire time they’re in diapers.
-Breastfed baby poop is water soluble. Diapers can go from baby’s booty right into the pail or washer with no fuss in between.

Cons:
-The up-front cost can be significant if buying a stash of brand-name one-size pocket diapers.
-You do need to change the baby more often, since they can feel the wetness you can’t put off a diaper change like so many do. I personally don’t see this as a con, but many would so I mention it.
-You need to be aware of your laundry routine. Too much detergent can ruin your diapers, so can not enough so it takes a bit to get used to for some people.
-You can’t use any old rash cream if rashes do happen, most will ruin absorbency of cloth diapers, so you need to be aware of that as well.
-The one-size diapers can be bulky and distort the look of clothing. It’s nice to have some fitteds or prefolds and covers on hand for special occasions when baby should look perfect, like photos.
-The poop of formula fed babies and babies that have started solids isn’t water soluble, meaning that chunks will remain chunks in your washer. You have to shake the solids out into the toilet, and sometimes rinsing is required as well.

That’s pretty much it.
To cloth diaper on the cheap, look at the Flip and Econobum kits here: http://www.cottonbabies.com/

Good information here: http://www.pinstripesandpolkadots.com/ba…

I get my diapers here: http://www.jilliansdrawers.com/
The customer service is wonderful and their prices are reasonable. They often have gently used and discontinued items for very low prices. They also have a "try before you buy" package. They let you try cloth diapers for 21 days. If you like them, you keep them and send them the difference. If they’re not for you then just return them and they’ll refund you $140 of your $150 deposit.
A very good kit if you’re on the fence: http://www.jilliansdrawers.com/products/clothdiapers/tryclothfor10/tryclothfor10

As a sidenote, my husband was against the idea of cloth diapers. Not because of cost or anything but because he thought it would be a huge hassle.
He’s _very_ happy we got them. He has no trouble using them at all and he also suggests them to friends when they ask.

This link will tell you everything you need depending on what system you want to use, from prefolds and covers to AIOs: http://www.pinstripesandpolkadots.com/DiaperStyles.htm

My personal favorites are the old style Fuzzi Bunz pocket diapers and the Bum Genius pockets. Both one size.
I wouldn’t use AIOs and I don’t suggest them. They take forever to dry and their absorbency isn’t adjustable.

I have 20 diapers and I do diaper laundry every 2-3 days.

Not happy in marriage and don’t know why.?

I have been married 2 years and for some reason I just don’t feel very happy anymore. He hasn’t really done anything, but at the same time that is the point. We don’t ever do anything as a couple, when I try and talk to him about what is bothering me, he acts like he could care less. But I feel bad for feeling this way cause he hasn’t cheated or abused me. What should I do?

Yeah, that’s the same here, kind of.
Listen, two years is about as long as the rush of love chemicals last, before we become used to them. I’m tlaking phenylethylalalanine, and adrenaline and all of that jazz.
Then, of course, there’s the fact that we do take each other for granted after a while, and we don’t do much together.
You must have heard of "date night" in marriages, right?
Where every Friday or whatever, you get a babysitter (when you ahve kids) and go out.
My friends have not one but two autistic twin boys, and they’re getting big, one is violent.
Do you know they have managed to find a couple of solid babysitters, plus respite services from Catholic Charities, and they go out every week?
Well, now you know.
So, if they can be that committed to each other and to making it work, despite his being in the restaurant busines and her mostly being home with her two boys who unfortunately can’t even say "Love you, Mommy,"
then I think you two can work that out.
Further,
men, especially mine, don’t necessaraily act liek they don’t care about our feelings- they see problems as something you’re begging them to solve.
They are usually logical, only. Not very huggy, or empathic, or sympathetic.
This may or never be resolved, this dichotomy between males and females.
But bring it up, and see what he has to say.
And please, go out and party!

at what age is it ok for her to babysit?

my child is 13 and my other is 11 she is very intelligent im wondering at what age is it ok to let a daughter mind her sister for an hour or so as im unsure?

This is what the NSPCC says on their website (copied & pasted):

WHAT THE LAW SAYS:

The law does not set a minimum age at which children can be left alone. However, it is an offence to leave a child alone when doing so puts him or her at risk.

How do you decide if you can safely leave a child alone?

There are many important things to consider before you decide to leave a child alone. These include:

the age of the child
the child’s level of maturity and understanding
the place where child will be left
how long the child will be left alone, and how often
whether or not there are any other children alone with the child.
For example, most parents would think it’s OK to leave a 16-year-old alone for the evening, but to leave them for a week would be unacceptable.

Many young children play outdoors with other children without suppervision but most people would agree that this is an important part of growing up.

You are the best judge of your child’s level of maturity and responsibility. Read our "Home alone" information leaflet for more information:

Home alone (PDF, 149.1kb)

If you do leave a child alone, remember:

If possible, leave a telephone number where you can be contacted, and be available to answer it immediately.
Talk to your child about keeping safe at home and point out the potential dangers. Tell them not to answer the door to strangers.
Give clear instructions about what to do if there’s an emergency . All children left alone should be able to phone the emergency services.
Leave a list of trusted people they can contact.
Put obvious dangers out of reach of children, eg medicines, chemicals, matches , etc.
Make sure that the child is happy about the arrangements and confident about being left .
Tell the child when you’ll be back, and make sure you’re back on time.
Talk to him or her about it afterwards .

Choosing a babysitter
When deciding to use a babysitter remember to:

Follow your instincts – if in doubt don’t use them.
Ask for at least two references and contact the referees yourself.
Choose a babysitter over 16 years old.
Listen to your child . Talk to your child about any issue of babysitting that they are unhappy about.
If your child is unhappy about your use of a particular babysitter, find someone else .
Only use registered childminders . A list of local registered childminders can be found from your local authority children’s information service.
If you need any further advice or information about leaving children alone, contact our Helpline on 0808 800 5000 at any time, or download our "Home Alone" information leaflet below:

Home alone (PDF, 149.1kb)

What nappies work best?

Cloth/disposible
also what brands are best and why?

My standard cloth diaper answer:

I’ve used both, cloth are better.

Pros:
-Cheaper in the long-run. To have your own stash takes a bit of up-front cash, a couple hundred for a good stash and accessories, but you can trim this down by buying used or in bulk.
Using cloth diapers is not cheaper if you use a diaper service. Diaper services tend to be very expensive and not many cities have them. Buying your own is the best way to use cloth.
-Nice soft fabrics.
-No excess in chemicals.
-Less rashes.
-Less stink. Disposables reek, and the smell lingers. Tossing cloths in a nice lidded can keeps smells in. You’d never know I have diapers in my house.
-Less mess.
-Less leaks. I’ve never had a leak in a cloth diaper.
-Environmentally friendly. Kind of. It depends on local water recycling policies, what sort of detergent you use, what water temperatures you wash in, if you line dry or tumble. So, it could be a really green choice for you, or it could not really matter. Either way, it keeps a couple thousand disposables out of landfills and that counts for something.
-Modern pocket and AIO diapers are grandma/daddy/babysitter friendly. Most day cares won’t refuse to use them. Why would they? They’re the same as a toss away, you just toss it in a bag to send home instead of the trash.
-It’s easier to potty-teach toddlers in cloth diapers. They can feel the wetness on their skin and this makes them uncomfortable, they’ll learn the potty much more willingly and quickly.
-They really are very cute.
-You can get one-size diapers that will fit from newborn to toddlerhood. So, one stash can fit multiple kids and last them the entire time they’re in diapers.
-Breastfed baby poop is water soluble. Diapers can go from baby’s booty right into the pail or washer with no fuss in between.

Cons:
-The up-front cost can be significant if buying a stash of brand-name one-size pocket diapers.
-You do need to change the baby more often, since they can feel the wetness you can’t put off a diaper change like so many do. I personally don’t see this as a con, but many would so I mention it.
-You need to be aware of your laundry routine. Too much detergent can ruin your diapers, so can not enough so it takes a bit to get used to for some people.
-You can’t use any old rash cream if rashes do happen, most will ruin absorbency of cloth diapers, so you need to be aware of that as well.
-The one-size diapers can be bulky and distort the look of clothing. It’s nice to have some fitteds or prefolds and covers on hand for special occasions when baby should look perfect, like photos.
-The poop of formula fed babies and babies that have started solids isn’t water soluble, meaning that chunks will remain chunks in your washer. You have to shake the solids out into the toilet, and sometimes rinsing is required as well.

That’s pretty much it.
To cloth diaper on the cheap, look at the Flip and Econobum kits here: http://www.cottonbabies.com/

Good information here: http://www.pinstripesandpolkadots.com/basics.htm

I get my diapers here: http://www.jilliansdrawers.com/
The customer service is wonderful and their prices are reasonable. They often have gently used and discontinued items for very low prices. They also have a "try before you buy" package. They let you try cloth diapers for 21 days. If you like them, you keep them and send them the difference. If they’re not for you then just return them and they’ll refund you $140 of your $150 deposit.
A very good kit if you’re on the fence: http://www.jilliansdrawers.com/products/clothdiapers/tryclothfor10/tryclothfor10

As a sidenote, my husband was against the idea of cloth diapers. Not because of cost or anything but because he thought it would be a huge hassle.
He’s _very_ happy we got them. He has no trouble using them at all and he also suggests them to friends when they ask.

This link will tell you everything you need depending on what system you want to use, from prefolds and covers to AIOs: http://www.pinstripesandpolkadots.com/DiaperStyles.htm

My personal favorites are the old style Fuzzi Bunz pocket diapers and the Bum Genius pockets. Both one size.
I wouldn’t use AIOs and I don’t suggest them. They take forever to dry and their absorbency isn’t adjustable.

I have 20 diapers and I do diaper laundry every 2-3 days.