I have no desire or motivation in life at the moment?

This could be a lengthy read, I will greatly appreciate it if you read it let alone give me and answer.

Im 20, in my first year of University studying graphic design. I have limited interest or drive at the moment in pretty much anything from studying to going out partying.

Last year before getting into Uni I did my foundation year and I finished with the top mark, I was buzzing…It was the hardest I had tried in all my years in education and the first time I had got the top grade in anything. I found that when ever I was having a low point or lacking motivation the tutors were quick to put you back on track giving you serious words etc.

I have always been spoon fed in anything at life, Im an only child and while i do appreciate everything my parents have done for me, I know this is effecting my current drive. Now Uni requires my own push I am finding it hard. I am quick to push the blame on other things like, not having enough hours with the tutors or the course is rubbish…all pretty rubbish excuses in there selves. So far, I feel I have put minimal effort in but I’m still on course for a 2:1.

But its not just my course, im having difficulty having interest with, its other things. Im single, yes Ive had girlfriends but Im still a virgin. It plays on my mind everyday, and I get comments saying im good looking, but its making me wonder….but then again I have no drive to get a girlfriend, and when I think I do I just want something to happen straight away.

But then I feel held back as I have acne…its cleared up on my face but its very bad on my back, causing me pain and scarring pretty bad. I am currently on tablets for this…so hopefully it will clear in the next few months.

Now I have quite an unhealthy obsession with my looks, I want to get perfect skin…I believe my bad acne has caused me to be like this. Im obsessed with eating my 5 portions of fruit and vegetables a day, drinking green tea. Ive pretty much quit drinking alcohol, which makes going out on nights out very boring when all your friends are drunk and you’re there sober. I dint miss the hangovers, but it just makes going out that one more thing that im losing interest in doing…which makes you look boring as hell being a first year fresher!

At the moment I just like watching films….usually by myself. I do go to the cinema with (girl) friends
on the odd occasion but that’s it. Reading this back right now, wow, it really looks like im living a sad little life. I need a life coach or something, someone there over my shoulder to just shout in my ear to get stuff done. Im not going to lie and blame something, I am lazy, but I don’t know what to do. I could go on and on with my problems…my biggest fear is not to make it in life, to lose the little friends I have, to be forever single…and at this rate its going to happen.

Hi, first of all, congratulations at being at university! I know you are probably baffled by the difficulty right now, but take my advice, it is better to face something difficult and fulfilling rather than flank it even with no motivation and end up being bored and feeling useless.

I am single too, and you know what, we should be proud of that, it is not a bad thing to be single; wait and be patient, if someone comes, they come, if they don’t, they don’t. There is no point on dwelling on this.

I know that feeling that you describe and writing your words down are more healing than you think, you have a bit of strength to be acknowledging your feelings in the way that you are.

Is there any counselors at your uni? Someone you could talk to face to face about this? Or perhaps show them? Because if you leave it, you may fall behind, and then it will discourage you even more; I should know, but not on the scale that you are now dealing with.

You know, I have no friends and I am single and I am not exactly in an interesting position right now, if this is what you fear then you need to try and get to the root of your problems. Not making it in life is more worrying than the other two, but inevitably, a few people don’t make it, there is something for everyone though and on the surface you are in a opportune position to get somewhere if you can get your motivation back.

I kind of get your feeling of wanting someone to tell you what to do; I have always, wondered to myself why I would want that, it is so complex but yes, things would be a lot more logical and directive that way, I don’t think you can find a life coach which would do that though.

You are in a good position with the 5 fruit and veg a day and not drinking; I wish I could be like you, at least in that respect icon smile I have no desire or motivation in life at the moment?

When you have no motivation it is difficult, you need something to give you the zest back, before its too late.

If you want to email me you can; you are better off than I am in the physical position sense, you should get some comfort from that.

My rant is over icon razz I have no desire or motivation in life at the moment?

3 Responses to “I have no desire or motivation in life at the moment?”

  • Halsey says:

    Change up your diet. A lot of your energy or lack there of comes from what you eat. Eat as healthy as possible and you’ll see that your motivation to do things will come around.
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  • Bruce says:

    Your problem seems like it has a lot of layers to it and it seems like you’re only typing out the tip of the iceberg. I totally get feeling lazy about school, that’s me, but I’ve never been "too lazy" to party and go out. Maybe you’re depressed, maybe you have some anti-social disorder, or maybe you’re just in a bad place right now and need to talk to someone. Regardless, I’d go talk to a councilor/psychologist/therapist and take it from there rather than relying on Yahoo Answers people.
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  • Biggle Piggle says:

    Hi, first of all, congratulations at being at university! I know you are probably baffled by the difficulty right now, but take my advice, it is better to face something difficult and fulfilling rather than flank it even with no motivation and end up being bored and feeling useless.

    I am single too, and you know what, we should be proud of that, it is not a bad thing to be single; wait and be patient, if someone comes, they come, if they don’t, they don’t. There is no point on dwelling on this.

    I know that feeling that you describe and writing your words down are more healing than you think, you have a bit of strength to be acknowledging your feelings in the way that you are.

    Is there any counselors at your uni? Someone you could talk to face to face about this? Or perhaps show them? Because if you leave it, you may fall behind, and then it will discourage you even more; I should know, but not on the scale that you are now dealing with.

    You know, I have no friends and I am single and I am not exactly in an interesting position right now, if this is what you fear then you need to try and get to the root of your problems. Not making it in life is more worrying than the other two, but inevitably, a few people don’t make it, there is something for everyone though and on the surface you are in a opportune position to get somewhere if you can get your motivation back.

    I kind of get your feeling of wanting someone to tell you what to do; I have always, wondered to myself why I would want that, it is so complex but yes, things would be a lot more logical and directive that way, I don’t think you can find a life coach which would do that though.

    You are in a good position with the 5 fruit and veg a day and not drinking; I wish I could be like you, at least in that respect :)

    When you have no motivation it is difficult, you need something to give you the zest back, before its too late.

    If you want to email me you can; you are better off than I am in the physical position sense, you should get some comfort from that.

    My rant is over :P
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